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The perposal part two. 

Lilly could not beleve all that just happened.one minute she was getting out bed. Then she went for a walk.then she was maried and all her way to her honey moon. It was very sureel. She was happy with her decison. It felt crazy but she was content even excited by the future.

“We are off!”he said in an exciting tone.”cool!”she said. “I have a thousand questions! “Alex told her.”i have a thousand for you.”she answered.”i want to know everything there is to know about you?” he commented. “I want to kbow rverywthing there is to kbow about you. We have the time.”she said. 

“Look. I am sory i did not wait for you.i suspected my former fiancée was not the one but i tried to push it. I was afraid to be alone.”he said.”you could not have known. I apteciate the sentiment i really do. I have not dated in a while. I am a bit of a workaholic. I wanted to be maried. I figured i would get around to it eventually. “She said. They both laughed. 

“You have not dated in a while?” alex asked. “I think the last time was in colege. Between church and civic events i am really buisy.  It would be difficult to date a parishioner.  The only male under forty is a bit odd. I dont want to date anyone that i know ib my civic work because they are unsaved.  It was not a prority. I wanted to be maried but i did not see an urgentcy. Perhaps i figured it would sort itself out. It has. I just did not think it will work itself out in this manor. ” she told him.

“Did you grow up hear?” he asked.”no i grew in pensivania. I went to a seminary not far hear. I was sent to pastor hear. I was glad it was close. I have become rather attached to this area. I was pleased to be assigned hear.i like this town. I love the church and the people. Did you grow up hear? “She asked.

“I did. I grew up in nearby deen. I went to bible colege in Connecticut then came back hear.  I am attending the same church i attended as a kid. I have wanted to be in full time ministry sense i was young. Did you want to be a pastor at a young age?”he asked. 

“Hardly. I grew up in a strict independent fundamental baptist church. I wanted nothing to do with it. I went to colege first as a english major.  One of the teacher was a Methodist minister as well. I went to her church. She took me under her wing.  She encouged me to persue the ministry.  The rest i gues is history. “She said. 

” i see.” he said.  “My patents were a bit detresed that i was training to be a minister and that i was attending a united Methodist church. They were glad i was involved in the church. I never really stoped believing. I was stuborn. I was rebelous. I have finaly put away those childish things.took a while.  My parents say they dont totaly agree with my decison but they see a change in me. We have become a lot closer. ” she said.

“Even if you agree on everything, it is not always easy between parents and children. ” he said. “Are you and your parents close?” she asked. “We are. We are very sinilar in beliefs and how we do things. Sometimes thibga just seam off. It might just be me. My siblings seem closer. Maybe everyone feel that way ” he said. 

She saw a deference in him as he spoke of his relationship with his family.  She came to realize that he felt isolated from his family. She never quite understood it or why or how the chasism came to be. She waa determined to make him always feel like he mattered to her. She wanted him to know he was her family. He was invalible to her. The sadness in his eyes afected her.she never wanted him to feel that way in this new family.  She wanted him to never question his significance with  her. 

“So did you parents help him you though the aftermath of your stabing?”he asked. “They were great. I could not have goten though it without them. I gues i should tell you the story. “She said.

“If you dont want to ,its ok.” he said. “No its fine. A guy who was drunk was trying to attack his x girlfriend. He got the wrong house.  Lukily my neighbor heard ne screming. He was a vet. He schot the man and probably saved my life. I was pro gun control. Not so much now. It was a hard recovery.  The physical and emotional scars renain” she said. He squeezed her hand. 

“Were you a good student?” he asked. “4.0” she said. “I was not a particuly good student in high school. Ay bible colege i was an A, b student.never got a single c. My school is probably not as hard as you went. I had to work hard but i was pleased.  “He told her. 

“You seem like a very ibteligent person. “She said.  “Thank you thats meens alot. I like to learn.  ” he said. “That is evident. ” she answered.  

“So where is that third tatoo?”he asked.she chuckled. “Your stil on that? It is on my thigh. It is a dolphin.  I like dolphin.  I have a stufed dolphin i had as a kid.yes i packed it. “She said.

She showed him one of one shoulder. It was winie the poo.the other was in greek. “I love theology?”he said. “You read greek?”she asked. “A little. I took biblical greek in bible colege. Your a thology nerd?” he asked. She chuckled.”a little! I know about the old testament baning of tatoos.” she said. “I was not going to bring it up” he assured her. ” it was a bit of a contradiction i gues. I dont tell a lot of people i have it. I put it there so i could conceil it. ” she said.  “Your something else! ” he said lauthing.

She loved the way he looked at her. She feared that that would change. Hia fascination with her would abait.he would lose that wounder. Onw day she would become mundane to him. She accepted the fact that it would.  It never did. She took notice of that. She was thankfull for that.

After a time they had made it from new hanpshire to Massachusetts.  Then they made it into new york. “Are you ready to stop for something to eat?”he asked. “Yea i am getting kind of hunger!”she answered. “Great!”he said.

They stoped at a resturant off the interstate.  He parked. His phone went off. “Its my mom,i should probably take this!”he told her. “Go for it!”she said. He presed the button. “Hi mom!”he said.

“Dad and i stoped by your house but you were not there. “She said. “I decided to go to Ohio any ways. I am in new york right now.”he said. She smirked but tried to stay silent.. She was enjoying seing him swet. 

“You ok?we are woried about you. “She said. “I am fine mom. “He tried to assure her. “Ok.drige carefully. Drink plenty of cofee. Take break if you need to. No land speed records.”she said. “Driking cofee has never been a problem for me. I will. Be carefull. “He said. She said her i love you. He echoed it. He hung up.

She smirked. “Seing you skirm is prety cute. “She said. “She is concerned. I am her oldest. “He said.”dont do anything rash like mary a complete stranger. “She said. “Yo have never been a stranger. ” he told her. She kissed him. 

They excited the car and went to the resturant. She felt pain.from time to time she experienced pain. The doctor said it would continue. “You ok hunnie?”he asked. “Im fine.just mild discomfort.i have grown used to it.”she said. 

He huggee her. “You don have to be strong. Not around me. You out up a brave front. No fear. I do it too. I understand.its ok. I have got you”he said. She embraced him. Her last boyfriend resented that she had no interest in physical contact. She recisted him at every turn.  With alex she found she craved afection. After a while she was ok. 

“So is there a pool at the hotel?”he asked.”yes.”he said.  He was skidish about the answer. “You dont like swiming?”she asked.”i akmost drowned when i was seven. Ever sence then i have been very skidish about it.”he said.”im sory. We. Can stay towards the shalow end. Please swim with me.”she pleaded.”alright. I will give it a chance.”he said. “We can get get though it together. “She said. 

“It was my fault.  I lost a trinket,a neclace i made in sunday school. I got above my head. I could not get out . i was rescued.  It left an lasting fear.” he said. “Understandible. We can face this fear together. “She said. “Ok!”he said.

“So what is around where we will be?”she said. “There is the bigest ball of yarn excibit 20 minutes from the hotel. “He said.”no! You planed on seing a ball of yarn on your honey moon?”she asked. “”We can skip it if you like?”he asked. “Oh no.i have to see this.i will get our picture taken with it. “She said.”i was just curious. It may not have been the finest decision. “He said.”i am excited to see it. I am going to tease you about it insesently but i am excited about it.”she said.

“There is plenty of tourest stuf around hear. More interesting then the ball of yarn. “He said. “I an sure it will be fine. ” she said.”if you have ideas oftging you want to do or see,tell me. I kindw had this planed out. I want this to he something you wi both enjoy and cherish.  “He told her. 

“I know it will be. “She said. This was already something she would always tresue. It was almost magical.  She was astonished by it. 

The meal was great. “Do you want desert?”he asked.”i don want to blow the budget! “She said. He showed her his first meal budet on his phone.”we are good.”he said “i an impresed and terified all at the same time. ” he said.they decided to have chese cake.she thanked him. He paid then they left. 

They stopped at a gass station. “Hey i go this!”she said.”i budgited gass mony!”he said.”i an sure you did. There is no such tging as myine and yours.its ours. I got this.”she said.”please me thats a debit card!”he said.”yes i dont believe in credit cards! “She said.”few!” he said. She paid for the gass at the pump. “You are really cute. Odd but cute!”she said.”thank you,i think! “He said.

“Hey can i drive for a bit?”she asked. ,of course! “He said as he gave her the keys.”can i put the radio on?after several hours of the same hym cd i am ready for something different! “She said. “Oh ok!” he said 

She found a station that played contemporary christian music.she sang along. “Your not a fan of ccm are you?” she asked.  “No im not. I perfer the old hymms. “He said. “Are you strict?”she asked.

“Some would see some are my stances as strict i supose. I try to base my views on biblical principles. I believe the bible is the word of God.where the bible is rigid i have to be. Its how you go about it. I try to hold the truth in love. I try to be happy about it. On music i will try to keep an open mind. Where on bible versons i have to hold to king james.on salvation i have to hold to salvation by grace though faith alone. On other things i dont have to be as rigid on. ” he said 

“I do believe in salvation by grace though faith alone. I believe jesus is the only way to salvation. ” she declared. “I was prety sure you did. ” he said. 

“I do enjoy klove and the music on it.i would like to continue to listen to it.” she said. “We will work on this. I think that we can work this out. It will require some ajustment on both of us. We will make it work. ” he said.”i know we will. ” she said. 

They switched off driving. Eventualy they arived at the hotel. They went inside to check in. 

To be continued. 

The proposal part one 

The last post was an intro.  A prologue.  I am calling this one part one.

Saterday morning ,alex got up early.he had trouble sleeping. He knew he had to get some sleep. Lord wiling he would be on the road most of the day. He did finally get to sleep. He got up.

He called his best friend bryan. “Hwy bri what are you up to?”he asked. “I was going to a wedding. .”he said. “Want to go for a drive with me? “He asked. 

He picked up bryan. He came into the pasinger side. “Ok you do realize this is the nutiest thing i have ever heard of.”he said.”i know. I have a peace about not marying april. I dont have a peace about being single. ” he said. 

“I cant beleve i am going along with this. “He said. “Thank you by the way. If this works i will need a witness. “Alex said. ” your welcome. I think.  “He said. He started the car and headed out. 

That morning,lilly got up. She had cofee then read in the bible. After that she decided to go for a walk. She commonly went for walks .she like to clear her head.  

“So how does this work. Are you just going to drive around until you find her?”bryan asked. “Yea. “He said.”how will you know the right one?”he asked.”she will say yes.”alez answered. “What if no one says yes?”bryan asked. “I beleve the right one will.” alex said.”what if she does not?”bryan asked. ” i dont know!” he said.

They did some drivng. He pointed out one.”no thats not her!”he said. He saw another. He said no. He came upon several. He did not feel free to ask them. 

Lily was listening to conptempary christian music station on her phone. She liked to have music on while she walked. 

Alex saw her walking. “Oh my! Thats her!” alex said. “Your sure?”bryan asked.”yea im sure. “He said.he stoped. He roled down the window. Bryan was really nervous.  This could end badly. 

“Hi. ” alex said. Lilly gave a nervous  hello back to her. “Will you mary me?”alex asked. Bryan tried not to visibly cringe. “Excuse me?” she asked.

“Will you mary me?” he asked again. She thought it over. “Is this a real perposal? This is not some radio station prank or something?” she remarked. “No its a real perposal. ” he said.

“Are you a christian?” she asked. “Yes i am a graduate of a bible colege. I am baptist. I am born again. ” he said “oh! I am a united Methodist minister. ” she said. “Oh!” he said. “You still want to mary me?” she asked.”i do. “He answered. 

“I have tatoos. Only three. ” she said. “Thats fine. ” he said. “I was stabed a few years ago. I have some scars. ” she said. “Im so sory to hear that. That is not going to brother me. ” he told her. 

“You realy want to do this?” she asked.”yes i do!” he said. “Yes. The answer is yes. “She said. “Excellent! ” He said.  “Do you want to get maried today?” she asked. “No time like the pressent. ” he said. 

Bryan opened the car door. “I will let you take my seat. ” he said. She wore a green shirt ,gray pants and shoes that revealed that her feet were otherwise bare. Both there heart were racing. 

She got in. “I’m lilly by the way. ” she said. “Im alex. It is so good to meet you. ” he said. “Likewise. ” she said. He huged her. “I assume your thinking justice of the peace?” she asked. “We can hold a church wedding later on. “He suggested.  “Of course. “She said. She ofered him her hand and she took it. 

He started the car. “I should probly tell you that i was engaged. My then fiancée broke off the engagement.  This is not a rebound thing. This has a biblical precedent.  When eliazer found rebecca. ” he said. “Actualy we are not sure that eliazer was the servent who found rebecca. It could have been. I am glad you told me. That does not brother me. “She said. 

“I have a ring from the engagement. If you want a different one later,thats fine. “He said. He showed her the ring.”no. I like this one. “She said. “Ok.”he said. 

“I had a hotel booked in ohio. I stil have the reservations.  ” he said. “Let me call my lay leader. I will have her cover my servives for the next ten days.  ” she said. “Sounds good. Will she mind?”he asked. “No i never take time off. ” she said 

“Hi terry its lilly. Can you cover the next two Sundays and the Tuesday.  I will be out of town. You can. thanks.  No everythings fine. I will explane when i get back.  Thanks. God bless.” she said. 

 “We all set?” he asked. “We are. Lets go get maried!”she said. “Ok!”she said Bryan was shocked by all this. Was this realy hapening? Was his best friend really marying a complete stranger? 

They started to head for the town hall. “You have three tatoos?” he asked. “Yea. One on each arm. T shirt cover it. The third well i will tell you later. ” she said.he chuckled. “I dont have tatoos!” he told her. “Why am i not surprised? ” she said.  

They arived at the town hall. They paid for the mariege lisence. Then they went to see the town clerk who could oficiate marieges. 

“Do you Alex take lilly to be your lawfully wedded wife ?”the clerk asked. “I do.” he answered.”do you lilly take akex to be your lawfully wedded husbend?” the clerk said. “I do”she said. 

“Do you akex promise to love honor and cherish her, ritcher or for pooerer in sickness or in heath till death you part?”he asked. He answered in the afirmitive. 

“Do you promise to love honor and obey in suckness and in health,for richer or poorer till death do you part?” she said yes. 

After the rings were presented. They said there vows. The clerk prononcef them husband and wife.  He told them they could kiss.  He kissed her. 

It felt so sureel. He was shocked. He could not believe that he was really hear. Yet he was. She could hardly beleve all this. One minute she was alone. Then she was maried. She was happy. She knew that she would no longer be alone. 

After they left hand in hand. They walked to the car.  “Congrats mr and mrs granger. ” bryan said. “Lilly granger that has a nice ring to it.”she said ” it definently does.  Are you going to hytginate your name?”he asked. “No i just want to be lilly granger”she said.”dont you meen reverend lilly granger?”he asked.”that too!”she answered. 

They got in. “I have a house. I got land from my grand farther.  ” he said. “I have an apartments. I like it but i would like to move to your place. I have a piano whitch wont be fun to move!  “She said. “We will find a way to move it! ” he assured her. “Ok! Thabks hunie. You play?”he asked. “I do. Mom is a nusic teacher so did not have much of a choice. ” he said. “I know that feeling w. My gram was a music teacher. “She said. 

“I am going to drop off bryan. Then we can go to your house and you can pack!”he said.”i will try to paxk light! “She said.”i have plenty of room. “He said.”do we have time to drop by your place. I want to start making place to change everything!”she remarkes.”yea. Sure. I would love to show it to you.”he told her. “Great!”she said.

“You really going to change everything? “Bryan asked.  “I wont know till i have seen it.”she answered.  They all laughed.”i am very flexible!”he said. “You may not regret saying that al!”bryan said.

They arived at byans house. Bryan said a prayer for them. “Look you two are heading into what may be the most difucult but wonderful days. Dont ever lose the wounder of the lord.”bryan said. Alex and byan hugged.  

Alex got back in. ” want to stop at your place first?”he asked. “Sure sounds good.”she answered. They drove to her apartment.

They went inside.  She took a picture of them at her house. She looked at it. He put his arm around her. “We are going to have quite the stories to tell our kids. “She told him. “Indeed we are.”he said.”you want kids right?”she asked.”i do at least two of each.”he said.”sounds good to me.”she said. 

She went into her bedroom. She took off het shoes and put on flip flops. She packed quickly. She hoped she had everything.  She and him louded the car. “I think i have everything. I never really packed on the fly before.”she said. 

“Ready?”he asked.”hold on. I just want to take all this in for a munute.”she said.”ok sure!”he said.she wraped her arms around him.he reciprocated. He extended his arms around her. Neither one wanted to let go.  “Welcome to my family my love!” he told her. “Welcome to my heart! ” she answered. They kept on embracing each orther. 

“Ok now i am ready.”she said.”ok. Off to my house. Our house.”he said.she smiled. They got inside. The car drove off.  

Theyy drove to his house. “Can i put a garden hear?”she asked. “Of course. This is your place too now. “He said.”i know just where i want to put it. “She said. He showed her inside.she loved it.she already had a milion idears of what she wanted to change. Thrn after a while they got ready to leave.  

He prayed for there drive. Then the car left. “Our jouney begins!”he said.”yes indeed. ” she said. They drone off. 

To be continued.  

The proposal 

Alex beleved from a young age that God wanted him to be in full time christian service.  He wanted to be married. He beleved that the Lord wanted him to be maried. 

He had met who he beleved was perfect. April’s farther had been friends with his father when they were at bible college. Both sets of pattents had pushed for the relationship.  

After they grauduated,he purposed marriege and she accepted. Both families were beyound excited. He had brought a house from mony from his great grandfarthers inheritance. He was still open to whatever the lord had for them to do.he was busy at his local church.  It was an independent fundimental baptist church. 

The time had come. The wedding was sheduled a week later. He noticed something was off. April became more dispondent,more reserve. He asked her about it. She incisted that she was fine. He was not sure. He stil thought that something was up.

All atempts to talk to her failed. He tried to be playful with her but he got nothing back. He was convinced that something was up. He hoped that it could all be worked out. He was not sure. 

He was starting to have doubts about her. He wanted to be matied.he did not want to leave her. He did not want to break up the engagement. 

The Saturday before the weading was to take place, his phone went off.it was april. He answered it. “Hi april.”he said.”um we need to talk. Can i drop by. “She asked. “Yea of course.  ” he answered.  

She pulled in. He went outside to meet her. They had a rule against being alone together inside. He went outside.she excited her car. 

“Whats up? “He asked. “I cant go though with the wedding.  I just cant do it. ” she said.

He was shocked. “What’s going on?”he asked. “I like you. I felt presured by my parents.  This was my dad and your dad’s dream ,not myne. I cannot go though with this.  I am sory to put you though this.  I dont want to be maried to you.”she said.

“Your sure about this? “He asked. “Yes i am totaly sure. I am at peace with my decison. “She said.

“I wish you told me a week before the event. I wish you had talked to me about this. I respect you and your decison. I wish you well. ” he said. 

He shock her hand. She headed to the car.  He did not watch her leave.he went back inside. He closed the door. 

He spent time in prayer. It made no sense. He was sure he was suposed to be married. It was not going to happen. He had no idea why. He did not know what to do now. He was confused and directionless. Everything he had been doing was in preparation for something that was now not going to happen. 

He prayed and read scripture.  He tried to stay stil and calm. He was composed enough to inform his parents.  He dialed the number. “Hello!” his dad said. 

“Dad. Hi. ” he said. “You ok son? You dont sound so good. ” his farther remarked. “Dad. April has called off the wedding.  ” he said. “Well have you tried to change her mind. Perhaps this is just pre wedding jitters. It hapends. ” his dad commented. 

“I feel this is for the best. I am not sure that this union was part of the lord’s perfect will. I believe that this break up might be part of his plan. ” he said.

“You should at least try. Talk to her.things might change. ” his farther said. “I am at peace with this. I am ok with the wedding not happening. ” alex said.

“You can stil save this. You might be able to change her mind. ” he said “a double minded man or women in this case is unstable in all there ways. There ie more going on.i firmly believe that this is not suposed to happen.  I believe i could convince her to resume the wedding preparation.  I am not sure this is what should happen. I do not want to get ahead of the lord. It is unwise to try to open a door that HE had locked.  ” alex told his farther.

“Well. I trust you. I am sad he happened like this. “He said.”yea. I am too. “He admited. After a while he hung up.

Alex went for a walk. He tried to gather his thoughts. He camr home and flew a drone he helped build with his younger brother. He tried to keep busy. 

The next day he did not want to go to church. He knew he should.  He did end up going.hr taught sunday school. He kept to the lesson her had prepared.  He could tell word had gotten out. 

At the sumer service the pastor made an anouncement. “As you know next week we were going to have a wedding.  Surfice it to say the weading has been postponed indefinently. The familes have requested that we keep this private. It was not for reason of sin . please give these families privicy on this “the pastor said. 

Alex wanted to dart out immediately after the service. Once the pastor gave his may the lord bless ,he interpreted this as permission to leave. He got up.

He got the “we are praying for you”and the “if you need anything “.je thanked them. He wanted to just move on. He tried to be cordial even though he did not want to be. He felt like a periah. He felt isolated alone.  He was alone serounded by freinds and family. Although it was not due to sin,he feared people would stil think it was.  

In another church just a few streets away was a young lady. She was the pastor. She had been stabeda few years elier and stil had pain form it.she tried to ignore it. She got though the service.she was well liked by her congregation. She liked them.she felt like something was missing but did not quite know what.

That week, alex tried to focus on work.he worked at a grocery store. He was a front end shift leader. He decided to take the week off as planed. 

That week he tried to stay grounded.going to mid week service was hard. He wanted to be there and knew that he should attend. He felt awkward there. He felt out of place. 

He stil had the reservations for the motel out of sate. He decided to go anyways. He had the moby saved up. It would be good to get away. That friday morning. He was reading in thw bible thw story of Gods rejection of saul. Samuel told saul that he woukd find a man afywr Gods own heart to replace him. It hit him like a ton of bricks. 

“Oh my! This is the nutiest idea i have ever heard”he thought.  Yet he was really considering it. He decided that he would be maried this saterday. Now he just had to find a wife. 

To be continued.